Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
Yesterday's message was certainly fun! It was Movement Sunday, a day that we take time to minister specifically to our teens and youth. My husband spoke about the various decisions that we face in our lives and the need to be focused on how today’s decisions impact tomorrow’s outcome.
He began to minister to the young girls about the need to maintain a standard of purity even in the face of temptation….FINE temptation. And then one of the teens said, “Wait how fine??” And that’s when the fun began! I thought my husband would die of shock because the teen who asked was none other than OUR daughter! It was hilarious! And so we launched into the discussion of whether or not “fine” matters to women and teenage girls.
Ladies, what do you think??? Does “fine” matter? Did it matter to you when you were a teenager? If you’re single, does it matter if a “fine” gentleman approaches you? Is it more difficult to stay focused? And, if you’re married, did it matter when you met your Husband whether or not he was fine?
I can’t wait to see some of these answers! J
After some very lively and fun discussion, we ultimately concluded that as a young girl or even young adult Christian lacking in spiritual wisdom, the idea of “fine” is certainly relative to the ability to resist the temptation and stand firm on a standard of Godliness. It requires a greater level of strength and determination to maintain the standard. But it can be done! As women of God, our standard can and should be maintained, by the power of the Holy Spirit, even and especially in the face of “fine” temptation. That does not mean that we won’t ever be tempted. It simply means that because we know who we are in God, we do not compromise our standards and we do not settle for less than God’s best, even if it looks good, even if it seems great. And that is precisely what we must teach our daughters. Good and even great is still not God! Be determined to wait for God!
Overall, I thought the message was very timely, substantive and matter of fact: You and I have some decisions to make. And just like our past decisions have led us to where we are today, the current decisions we are facing will take us into our next place.
Decisions such as: How will I manage my money? With whom am I going to be in relationship? Where will I attend church? Where will I work? How long will I continue with this attitude & response? How long am I going to blame someone else for this behavior?
Where will you end up? How are you going to make these decisions? Will you be led by God and walk in His ordered steps for you? Or will you be led by your flesh and chase empty pleasures that are temporary and fleeting. Always remember that where you are now is the sum total of the decisions you have made, and where you’re going will be a result of the decisions you will make. So if it's your desire to walk out your ordered steps and receive the promises of God, then you must first commit to the most important decision of all. Obedience.
Have a blessed day!
All my love,
Nicole
Another Good Post! I laughed because I can visualize Pastors response when the question was asked “How Fine?” As for me I try not to judge guys on just how fine they are because, fineness is not going to get it alone… maturity, compatibility and most importantly GOD must take precedent… Fine does help though (Let’s keep it real).
ReplyDeleteMy friend and I have found a questionnaire that helps a person organize what is important for them (in a relationship). My focus came out to be Character, Attentiveness and Finances. My friend’s answers were Attractiveness, Attentiveness and then Character. I asked her how she felt about her outcome she responded by saying that Attractiveness is VERY important for her. In today’s lesson “Does Fine Matter?” for my friend fineness is a major criterion before she gets to know someone which; is her choice. She being an attractive young lady meet many men but, with her focus on “Fine-Ness” I can’t help but wonder if she’s passing up on some men that were spiritually, moral and compatible with her rather than been “fine”. But, as she grows with God I pray that she is led by Christ.
As a single young lady I find myself intrigued by conversation first. I do not feel that being “fine” shifts my focus and throws me off. I like to think that I allow the Holy Spirit to lead me more than not but, the struggle is when I begin to build relationships. I always try to keep God first to help me stay focus to see what I need to see… and not allow my feelings to completely take over. It is WORK!!!! Prayer is the only way!
FINE... this a broad description that changes based on where you are in life. Of course we like to look at and be seen with a good looking man. But after realizing that "fine" does not equate to faithfulness, honesty, integrity or financial stability, then physical appearance moves down the list. Godliness trumps FINE everyday! However, what's fine to me is a good balance of all of the above. Remember that physical features change over time and then what?
ReplyDeleteAs women of God we should rethink our "list" of priorities in building relationships. If God sends you a man that loves Him and loves you too, tell God thank you, now that's FINE!!